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We live in a world where certainty is a thing of the past. In fact the only certain thing known to man is uncertainty—and the sooner you and I prepare our minds for this reality the better of we are.
This reminds me of one of the classics books I read years ago. This little book challenged my then way of thinking into a new paradigm. If you’ve read Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson you know what a treasure it is. This classic explores diverse set of views from different characters whose perceptions transformed their life and the way they responded to the change happening around them. For the wise, those that expected change and embraced it, the impact was healthy and profitable. In fact, when change came they seemingly knew what to do unlike those characters that appeared surprised when things in their life, e.g. work/careers started to shift.
Today, we are constantly faced with similar demands whether in our jobs, careers, family, marriage or in relationships. Change is inevitable, and in fact it’s the only certain thing you and I should expect. Because once we anticipate change, our brains then go to work figuring out what to do with change should it come. You may have heard it said that success is when luck meet preparedness. A lesson I learned recently while flying 19000 feet. I decided to skydive about 6 or so months ago. I had never done it before, so I knew I needed to prepare myself mentally, and I did. When I found myself on the plane on the day of, I recall thinking about the fact that I was not in fear. Only to realize that because I had been telling myself and others that I am going Sky Diving for more than 6 months—when the day of came, I had already done it so many times in my brain and verbiage such that to my brain it was as if I had already experienced the event as real before it actually happened.
According to neuroscientist, the human brain does not differentiate between real or unreal events, or dos and don’ts. This is why it’s so disempowering to allow your mind to go on a negative chatter or state because we become what we think about. So, next time you find yourself thinking negatively either because change has befallen you, realize you have the power to change your outlook on the matter or your belief about the matter by shifting your mental state. You only need to remember that you were created with all the necessary tools to create whatever emotions and/or reality you want—good or bad—the choice is yours—you have the power to make change work in your favor if you face it head on with certainty.
I write this piece not because I love change per se, but because I enjoy change when I initiate it but that does not mean I am off the hook when the inevitable strike at my door. Nevertheless, I’ve learned how to deal with it. Recently, I discovered this truth about change while I meditated on a challenge I need to address. This thought was very liberating. Often when this happens, I hear an inner voice call out my name before the address. It went on like this, ‘Carolyne, the best approach to deal with uncertainty is to be certain of how to deal with uncertainty. At first this sounded oxymoronic, but as I considered this remark it dawned on me that to confront any challenge or to effect any change effectively, one must be very certain of the strategy of execution, otherwise having no plan to affect the kind of change desired is foolhardy. Do you have any thoughts or lesson you’ve learned when it comes to change? Share your thoughts in the comment below, thank you.
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Change and uncertainty are two of the most frightening and exciting things that I feel appear in my life. I feel that whenever change occurs it makes me feel uneasy and yet that feeling allows me to feel more alive. Uncertainty is something that I have been challenging for as long as I can remember and I feel if I didn’t challenge uncertainty and was more certain to allow things to play out without my conscious control I feel that life would bring out a lot more treasures. I believe it is all through control vs. allowance is that really challenges the minds of those who are certain or uncertain in this time.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Raymond. I could not agree more.
Thank you Raymond for sharing your perspective. I agree I could not agree more.
Awesome, loved it!
I like change because it helps us to feel our grief, which hurts because it’s the physical body’s identity attachment to circumstances of the past. By setting up intentional grieving rituals, life’s changes don’t bother nearly as much as they otherwise would!
Well said Joshua. Empirically, change is the only thing upon us unless we are of course 6 Fts under. Until then, one has to choose whether change will cripple them or empower them. I can tell you it takes real guts to be intentional when in pain at your door.
You went skydiving?? You’re so courageous!! I don’t think I would do that anytime soon lol
I did… it was daunting yet fun to say the least. I wanted to challenge myself a bit. I know you to be courageous, perhaps in a few years we can do it together.
I completely agree with this piece. Out of personal experience, when I prepare myself and answer the question ‘what if…? I feel freedom and fear is gone. When change finally appears, I don’t spend much time adjusting.
Good read 🙂
Thank you Lady Thuku! I appreciate your perspective. Facing our fears or whatever limiting beliefs holds us back squarely unleashes incredible power and freedom to dive in. And once on the other side, the confidence, joy and euphoria that this experience breeds is explosive and empowering especially when the next challenges.